Potential partners are thin on the ground, and finding them is difficult.Because most people you meet expect monogamy, finding poly partners is particularly difficult.Even if we exclude everyone who isn’t open to polyamory, and everyone of the “wrong” sex or orientation, and everyone who doesn’t have whatever other traits we want, we’re still left with tens of thousands of potential partners, which is surely enough to keep even the most ambitious person busy. You’ve successfully flipped the script; you’ve gotten to a point where it becomes instinctive and your plates actively seek out your attention. Other people don’t feel guilty for rejecting you, which means they’re a lot more comfortable around you.Abundance thinking is the root of Plate Theory [casually dating multiple people]. You seem like a confident person that lots of people want to date, which is generally attractive.
He's a political consultant and digital media strategist for the Republican party.In this episode, I'm joined by a surprise guest (hint: he's visiting from Chicago) as we talk about Trump's first year as president, the #metoo movement, Hollywood, and accountability.Show Notes I reveal our surprise guest [ ...…Every Muslim man needs to learn how to network in a way that is natural and doesn't seem fake. To genuinely be interested in people and want to invest in the relationship.And it seems to me it would have a lot of the same beneficial effects: if Interchangeable Woman #1 rejected you, that’s mildly annoying because it means you’ll need to put in more effort before you get one, but Interchangeable Woman #3554 is just as good.If Interchangeable Woman #2666 rejected you, that’s not a personal insult, it’s just a sign you need better game.”– effective, but probably not psychologically possible for many or even most people– and “become sexually successful! I suspect that sexually unsuccessful women who are open to casual sex can acquire an abundance mindset through putting an ad on Craigslist Casual Encounters; however, this option does not work nearly as well for heterosexual men.However, you don’t need to currently be sexually successful to adopt the viewpoint that women are basically interchangeable.So there’s this concept which seems to have been independently invented by poly people and the red pill, which is fascinating to me whenever it happens.In More Than Two, abundance mindset is described this way: In the starvation model, opportunities for love seem scarce.,…but Rollo, I’m so busy that I have no choice but to ignore and postpone. (There’s a reason we all think this song is super-romantic.) Conversely, redpillers seem to take more of a “all women are like that, no woman is special and unique, they are all basically interchangeable and easily replaced.” The redpillers’ philosophy is quite misogynistic, and therefore I have obvious objections to it.But more than that, it doesn’t seem particularly conducive to the happiness of the person who believes it.