Remember manners and etiquette are not the same thing. Etiquette is what you do when you are present under certain circumstances. The creature unlike any other behaves this way at all times and therefore, carries herself as a lady!
She is feminine in her gestures because she has mastered the Art of femininity.
A creature unlike any other isn’t vulgar in speech. She isn’t a motor mouth running on and on all the time, she knows it’s annoying, not polite and simply unlady like.
They are saying that once you become this woman, this is how you will see situations that may occur in such a manner. O sees herself in such a way where she has developed herself internally (i.e., emotional level of resilience/ balance/ control and etc…) she has become equipped mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically to handle external circumstances in her everyday life.
You still feel the emotion pass through you but as a C. Thereby, if things don’t work out she still knows that she is enough, once you develop this state of mind, you will know that regardless of whatever any outcome, you are still enough! This is why when women ask questions about being busy and manipulative with the rules, it’s not the case. O makes a daily mental choice to ensure that nothing will uproot her mental and emotional steadiness.
Your confidence needs to be so high that you think like Kate in terms of when reporters asked her about William, she said: “He’s lucky to have me.” A fellow from one of my strong subject areas, William James saw the “act as if” principle like this: “The sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if your cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there.”In other words, if you were depressed before picking up The Rules Manuals/Rules Books, you cannot remain the same if you start acting as if you are happy because eventually it will have some positive placebo effect on you. We are not saying “Oh sure, lie about being busy all the time.” We actually mean and hope for you to “Go out and actually get a life, do things that are fulfilling to you, actively be busy, so go and play tennis.” A C. Abraham Lincoln said “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Therefore, this positive statement and the concept you gather from the CUAO chapter in original Rules Book 1, suggests that this positive state of mind that holds confidence, the way you perceive individuals and things is a choice we can make.
WORD OF WARNING THOUGH LADIES: If you haven’t developed any of the things mentioned within this blog, then you can “act as if” for a while but afterwards it is better to become a happy C. I read this quote by Paramahansa Yogananda and it links in with some aspect of being a CUAO.