There’s a fine line between underselling yourself and blowing your own trumpet when it comes to dating online. Follow these dos and don’ts gleaned from thousands of couples matched by e Harmony and move from online relationship to the real deal.
When trying to spark someone’s interest over email, you’ve got to be fun, engaging and good at creating a rapport, while keeping an element of mystery. Do: be proactive Don’t let that classic British reserve hold you back.
When replying to a match via email, use two-to-three-sentence responses.
If in doubt, it helps to draft an email, walk away and return an hour later to review it, edit it and, when satisfied, hit send.
Without the initial contact, how could he know you might be interested in him?
Why do I believe a woman can and should send the first email while still allowing a man to be the man and pursue her?
Men often have to write 50 emails to get perhaps two responses.
Follow this rule of thumb: keep profile answers concise and fun.
A considerate “no” is preferable to a thumb-twiddling non-response that leaves the other person feeling they must have done something wrong.
Do: meet up in person ASAPA potential pitfall of dating online is that people can get lulled into a passive email exchange that lasts for months rather than actually pursuing a date.
Accept that dating online will involve some chasing.
If you find someone who catches your eye, send an icebreaker or a friendly email.