But ultimately, I realized that being honest about who I am and living my life authentically and with integrity is more important to me than anything else.
Plus, there are now more role models out there for me, great gay actors doing amazing work, like Matt Bomer, Jim Parsons, Neil Patrick Harris, Wanda Sykes, and Amber Heard, just to name a few.
Somehow, though, when I started talking, all that went out the window.
I found myself opening up and being honest and talking about how proud I was of this project and how I was excited to see something that resembled my life being out there in the world.
I believe so much in the show and the idea of showing gay men having sex without shame or consequences, and I hope that it's opening the closet door just a little wider, until it might even disappear. I am an out gay actor now, but I worry that I might only play gay characters for the rest of my career, or that I will be forever marked by something I can't control.
I decided to be the one who would let writers refer to my permanent state of bachelorhood and discuss why I hadn't met the right girl yet.
I was readying myself for a life of loneliness, of never putting myself out there and keeping everyone at arm's length, in order to have the career that I thought I wanted.