All this results in outrageous public displays of affection in places such as Starbucks, which are seen as “Western” and “liberal,” and therefore justify a girl lying on top of her boyfriend and pretty much dry humping him.
I should also mention that these views have largely contributed to Turkish men’s taste for foreign women—and also their often inappropriate treatment of them.
Some of the rules include showering after intercourse, no sex during menstruation, and that a man must have sex with his wife at least once every four months (this is considered to be a wife’s conjugal right).
With a religion that severely subjugates its women comes an unfair balance between the roles that men and women play in courtship, marriage, and sex: the woman is submissive to her husband, who can have multiple wives (although polygamy is illegal, it is still practiced in some parts of the country), and use her for sex whenever the mood strikes him.
He justified watching and sharing the video by saying this: “This is not private but public, because he was not with his wife. We cannot view adulterers as victims.” The question begets why the Turkish government is so obsessed with sex.
Vociferous journalist Oray Egin told that, “whenever I see a Turkish cleric of Islam talking about sex in the public domain, I immediately assume that it is a personal issue for them.
She woke up when he started touching her, freaked out, and told him to get out, and his reaction was one of complete shock and disbelief, followed by downright refusal.They would carry on, yelling, laughing, but when I would enter the room, they would go quiet as I’m a lady and I demand a certain kind of behavior.We then lived with another two guys, this time in their early 30s, one of whom was gay but had a ‘beard’ as being openly gay is still taboo in this country (but that is a topic for another time) and one who had no social skills around women whatsoever. The problem is that women and men are not encouraged—on a large scale—to live together as friends in a share house or even as partners before marriage.Although it is not something I have to partake in, it is a subject that fascinates me.I’m trying to convince a single friend who has lived in Turkey for two years to let me document her hilarious (and sometimes scary) Tinder adventures, which include one man calling her a “prostitute” after she told him she is posing nude for an artist. In terms of sexual politics, Turks veer much closer to the ‘conservative’ dial than the ‘liberal’ one.Marital rape and domestic violence are both common practices, especially in rural areas.Although the secular parts of society have a much more liberal view of sex, it is the conservative government’s—and politicians’—beliefs that are particularly disturbing.When I would be cooking, he would come and stand next to me and just stare. Universities too have mostly same-sex housing for students, and women can only sit next to another man on intercity buses or trains if he is her partner.This means that women and men don’t interact in all aspects of the word growing up and then, naturally, have skewed outlooks on dating and sex.A Turkish male friend once told me that one night stands are not really a thing, and especially not for women (no big surprise there).Another Turkish male friend told me that although men and women can be friends, growing up in large mixed-sex friendships groups is a lot less common than in other parts of the world.