Or let’s say you’re in a serious relationship and there has been talk of getting engaged but he hasn’t popped the question yet.
Instead of getting angry about it, just give yourself a deadline.
The only work you have to do is to make sure you are your best self and get to a place where you can give and receive love.
No amount of plotting or analyzing will change whether you and someone else are compatible. The dating process is more of a discovery process to find out if it’s there.
Tell yourself that you will be fine with things for the time being, and if nothing changes in two weeks, then you can be upset about it and deal with it.So you enter into the relationship as your best self and then one of two things happens: it works out, or it doesn’t.And if it doesn’t, you’re OK because you know that it just means you weren’t a matforith that person.This also works if you’re in a more established relationship.Let’s say you don’t see your boyfriend as often as you’d like.You invest mental energy in making sure things go a certain way. I have been guilty of stressing over past relationships. Things started out fun and light, I got excited about the possibilities…and then became scared that my imagined future wouldn’t come to be…and then panic set in.From then on, the relationship was no longer enjoyable.It doesn’t mean you’re flawed or damaged or bad or unlovable. Sometimes you’ll be able to see this, and sometimes the other person will have that clarity.Either way, if it doesn’t work, it’s because it wasn’t the right fit. If you can realize this, A lot of us make the mistake of prematurely freaking out over something that really turns out to be absolutely nothing.If he doesn’t propose in the next month, then I will be upset and I will deal with it.Until then, I’m going to enjoy the relationship and not let this bother me.