You don’t have the right to use slurs or be disrespectful of someone’s culture, even in jest.
Even if you have a friend of a certain background that doesn’t mind racial ribbing, don’t make assumptions that your date will feel the same way.
Here are Sally´s top ten tips for navigating the perilous path to true love in Spain.
1 - Breaking the apron strings Photo of a man and his mother: Shutterstock If you believe you can move the relationship along at a snail´s pace and build up to meeting the family at around the six- month mark, then think again.
The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.
Spanish men typically are still living at home until well into their 30s so his mum is likely to be the queen of his world (who irons his pants and gives him a Tupperware to take to the office). Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.When Sally, a Brit, arrived in Madrid five years ago she had the rather unrealistic expectation that Javier Bardem lookalikes would be queuing up to sweep her off her feet. Now in her early 30s and a seasoned veteran of the dating scene she tells the Local how to avoid the pitfalls of a Spanish mummy´s boy and the perils of communicating through the language barrier.Discuss your dreams and aspirations, share your story, and get to know who you are, heart-to-heart. At the end of the day our top dating advice is to follow your heart and be confident in your choices.You’ve been dating for a while but you’ve never met their friends or family. Have the courage to reach outside of your type and go for it. Dating can be awkward enough already when dating people from your culture so you can definitely expect awkward moments when bridging ethnicities.Take it all in stride and focus on seeing whether your values align, and you feel compatible and positive when you’re together.If your dating pool feels too small, it’s time to widen it.The fastest way to do that is by meeting people of different backgrounds.Just because you’ve dated one person of a specific race doesn’t mean everyone from their background is the same. Remember that there’s a lot of diversity in any culture. Race is not a part of you getting to know each other.There’s no need to dwell on it as a topic before you even get to know each other. We are all much more than the colour of skin we were born with.