Then again, HER’s minimalist profile reflects the modern trend in online dating towards less chatty profiles that encourage users to interact rather than creep.
“Feed,” my favorite part of HER, is similar to my Facebook feed in that it is all lesbians posting links, events, thoughts, etc. HER introduces itself as “the app that will introduce you to every lesbian you ever wanted to meet.So If you’ve tried either of those, leave your experience in the comments! HER is a fresh, ultra flexible app aimed exclusively at lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, and queer women.HER’s modern hybrid of dating and social networking is a refreshing break from the pressure to hook-up or fuck off that embodies some competitors.Your profile on HER can be as simple or as in-depth as you want it to be: just add a textbox like you would a picture and write away.While this freedom is endearing, a few simple prompts a la Ok Cupid might be helpful.Meaning those ratchet couples creeping for threesomes can now be instantly spotted and dismissed along with the dishonest and unfaithful. Bumble Bumble’s big feminist twist—only girls can send the first message—is rendered irrelevant by lesbianism.Lesbianism: where girls always have to send the first message. Once you’ve made a match on Bumble, the pressure is on to move quick or miss out.You are so important to us that we haven’t thought of you, but we will, eventually, maybe when we’re bored or running errands or the cable’s out.Until then, know that we are absolutely friendly and all about you not in our actions or product but in our occasional empty words. You could be straightforward without fear of being rejected or misunderstood. “We’re just talking” is a phrase that opens the door for cheating that technically wasn’t cheating because you weren’t together together.Relationships were less complicated and convoluted. But maintaining a healthy relationship in today’s highly digital and secular age is more difficult than it has ever been. So many people are scared of commitment and being official that they’ll remain in a label-free relationship, which blurs lines and only works until it doesn’t. Here are six ways modern dating is killing real love.