I suppose I can appreciate these relationships so much more because I also know what it's like to have friends who really are not friends at all, but people who continually drain you without ever giving back.It's so true that a real friend--someone with whom you have a strong bond--reciprocates unconditional love, is not afraid to be honest with you, and desires to bring happiness into your life. I have found that even if your personalities, likes and dislikes are very similar, you cannot expect to automatically experience a rewarding, ongoing friendship.They want to love, to nurture, to make the world a more beautiful place. However, I have a husband and a good number of children and kana.....whatever. This word describe the people’s relationship is an unfair relationship such as a master and slaver and in Japanese this word’s means tend to the servant.
)--and that any of us can face an unimaginable horror at any time--my new attitude and outlook, my "new self" is determined to live as happily as I can until I die. Who are you to tell him his pain or experience is less worthy to express their feelings. Nor is it a competition of who's the one without friends for the longest. Even tough I could feel your pain thru empati I would never feel what you really feel. And if you dont have any of course this will be somewhat deppressing. So far, I haven't made any new friends and I lost my family of origin and my childhood friends due to a nutty family situation. Discussing this with a true friend over the last couple of days leads me to conclude that curling up in a ball and locking myself away is more benifical. I have friends and we spend every second of the day together, We always help each other and we carry each other's burdens., which translated literally means "family." The connotation suggests a bond between people who've made a similar commitment and who possibly therefore share a similar destiny.It implies the presence of the deepest connection of friendship, of lives lived as comrades from the distant past.The question then arises: why do we have the kind of chemistry encapsulated by the word kenzoku with only a few people we know and not scores of others?The closer we look for the answer the more elusive it becomes.It may not in fact be possible to know, but the characteristics that define a Of course, we may have friends who fit all these criteria and still don't quite feel kenzoku.There still seems to be an extra factor, an attraction similar to that which draws people together romantically, that cements friends together irrevocably, often immediately, for no reason either person can identify. But the difference between us is that I finally realized I needed to get help in order to release myself from the pain and injury given to me by others. I learned so well that if I kept waiting for others to bring happiness into my life, I would probably wait a lifetime.We all tend to attract people into our lives whose character mirrors our own. I agree with all you said about it being so difficult to find anyone with any free time or that is willing to invest a little time into friendship. All of these articles, while seeming to be based on a "well-being" trajectory seem to totally disregard what actually goes on in the real world. I also find that the people who are inclined to really sit down and talk and try to over-haul relationships (and take them and the process seriously) are the least able to handle the inevitable rejection and complacency (or even apathy) when the other party ..what they always (tend to) do. It doesn't sound like responsible or fair advice, to me. And naivete must be shed if these experts really want to help people. Although my friends bring me happiness, I don't depend on them to do so. Another important thing I have learned is to be my own friend.You don't have to make yourself into what you think others would find attractive. As I thought about it, there are four people in my life I consider All Americans have anymore are acquaintances. I've also done all that's mentioned here and have gone a lot of years without any close friends that have any time or the ones you do connect with aren't close. It's like what happened many times with me after coming out of being hospitalized: Completely disappointed by the fact that these doctors did not seem to base their advice or the expectations they gave us, on the world we actually live in. Its as if all of the onus has been placed on the "carers" who I believe their core gift is caring and empathy--but they're also sensitive. Advice like this.friendship and romance is really crappy because it very often leads people to thinking they are the problem when they really aren't. As a last note: I'm really starting to wonder about this website. I learned you can be caring and giving toward others without doing it at your own expense.In this position, you want to lay flat on your belly and spread your legs in a v-shape.He can get creative and enter you in which every way feels best for him.