So take your time getting to know your date; ask questions, be curious.
And when you've accrued a decent amount of courtship hours, then you can bang away.
And women, lest you think you're off the hook, you're not.
Even though I'm talking to the guys here, many of these points apply to you too. Dating in midlife isn't always easy, but at least you're all in it together, and you can all make it great.
The point is, hold back from dating until you're healed. GF #1: "Nothing is a bigger turn-on to a woman in her 50s than a man that makes her feel like she's the best thing that ever happened to him." GF #2: "Be honest with her and don't lead her on.
Listening and wanting to know everything about her earns you major points." GF #3: "Keep an open mind and heart.
When it comes to women and dating, I say you can never know enough.Guys that are too fast getting in are probably going to be too fast getting out.Chivalry and romance aren't dead -- in fact, they're alive and well and much appreciated.If you don't sleep with them fast enough, they get frustrated and lose interest." GF #3: "Online daters, especially the older ones, are like kids in a candy store, not ever giving anyone a chance because there's always someone else." My Advice: Slow down.Don't get too flirty too fast, don't text, and definitely don't sext.If I cried every time I felt lonely, though, I'd cry a helluva lot, and that's the problem. Loneliness is just a state of mind, but it can turn into a disease if you let it. Fellas, if you're in your 50s, single and dating (and feeling like you're not getting anywhere), consider this a little friendly feedback from the ladies.My therapist told me that whenever those feelings of loneliness strike, I should sit with them, not fight them. This was hard for me to do because I contemplative, eat to the point of a self-induced stomach flu. I heard my neighbor's dogs barking, begging my neighbor to take them outside.I thought to myself while enveloped in strawberry-scented marijuana smoke. It felt good to cry, I'll give my therapist that much.So men, before you break out into a cold sweat, know that all this is well intended and researched. Since I got married for the first time at 51, I can speak from experience when it comes to dating men in their 50s.I've gathered input from three of my most trusted single girlfriends whose ages range from early 40s to late-50s. We love you guys and want the best for you, so here goes.