ESSENCE.com: The woman who is assisting you as your matchmaker on the show, Tionna Smalls, how challenging was it working with her?
CHILLI: We are very opposite, but I had to put my trust in her.
He can't eat pork, or have more than two baby mamas. Last, but definitely not least, he must have a really huge p...package. Every Sunday night at EST, Chilli attempts to find him on her reality series "What Chilli Wants" on VH1.
The beautiful singer/songwriter Chilli seems to think so.
ESSENCE.com: So do you miss the relationship you and Usher had? ESSENCE.com: Four times a week, that says something. CHILLI: We're friends, and not the type of friends that sleep together or have seen each others' body parts. I'm comfortable in that area, I don't want to ruin a great friendship. He has a lot of the qualities [I like], I'll tell you that. ESSENCE.com: I respect you, your standards, and that you haven't given up on love. What do you say to women who are getting older, harboring bitterness and resentment, and have yet to find the one? Know yourself, both the good and the bad, and then figure out what you really like.
Would it be possible to ever rekindle your relationship with him? Yes, there's an attraction you can't deny, but if we cross that line we can't come back to where we are right now.
Sales of the album was helped by the performer’s breakup with Chilli of the R&B group TLC.It's like we all go through experiences, and a list helps you remember to smell the trouble as it comes around the corner.ESSENCE.com: When was it created and how has the list changed over the years? I started the list in my 20s, an age when you make a lot of mistakes as you're still learning about yourself and men.You feel like you need a girlfriend or a boyfriend. When you truly, truly love somebody and it’s a healthy love, you always want to make sure you’re healthy yourself before entering a relationship and give that person your time. It means that we are exclusively dating each other trying to get to know each other, figure out each other’s personalities, see if we click, if our morals are intact—all those things.Rozonda "Chilli" Thomas believes "I was built to be someone's wife." However, in order to find her husband, he must make the grade. The "C" in the all-girl group TLC, makes no apologies for her laundry list of standards she calls the "Chilli Checklist," while her matchmaker, author Tionna Smalls provides Chilli with some much-needed assistance in finding a boo.CHILLI: I don't try to think about the past, I'm on another journey now. ESSENCE.com: The ball's in your court, so to speak. If you wanted more, you and Floyd would be more than friends? ESSENCE.com: Speaking of the Lord, do you think you may miss out on finding your man being so specific with your checklist? CHILLI: (Laughs) Aww man..helped to reform and reshape the list. CHILLI: We're not enemies, I'll leave it at that..bad blood. Still everyone continues to want you and Usher back together...CHILLI: God knows the desires of our heart, and before I even had a list I prayed and asked God to show me what exactly it is that I need. ESSENCE.com: You've never dated anyone that doesn't meet your list's criteria? ESSENCE.com: Hmmm.did Usher measure up to the list? During that relationship, I found out the things I really needed, and without going into a lot of detail, I can check off a whole lot on my list. CHILLI: It surprises me that people still say that, I hear it at least four times a week. When you become bitter, you're giving all those negative experiences the power to take you into a funk.Thomas talks to about when she created the list, how Usher was instrumental in changing it, and how Floyd Mayweather, even with almost every quality on her list, is just a, um, *cough*...friend. The beautiful singer/songwriter Chilli seems to think so.Here's what you had to say: The Observer commented: "What about his integrity, monogamy, life goals, spirituality? The physical plays out over time and at the end of the day, you need someone that's going to be there for you through thick and thin." LB wrote: "She is someone's baby momma herself so how can she not want someone's baby daddy? He can't eat pork, or have more than two baby mamas. Last, but definitely not least, he must have a really huge p...package. Every Sunday night at EST, Chilli attempts to find him on her reality series "What Chilli Wants" on VH1.