Happily so—and probably more so than most people I know who had nonarranged marriages.
The first girl, he said, was “a little too tall,” and the second girl was “a little too short.” Then he met my mom.
People start to fidget and offer an uncomfortable courtesy laugh.
But teachers, bear with me, and try not to spill your Folgers.
Let’s look at how I do things, maybe with a slightly less important decision, like the time I had to pick where to eat dinner in Seattle when I was on tour last year.
It’s always a little awkward when you compare teaching and dating.
It comes with a certain dress code, style, and dialect that students find relevant.
People say things like “I don’t need my students to like me” in the teachers’ lounge and that seems to earn them a badge of honor.
We tend to assume that the “cool teacher” means that teacher’s class must be really easy.
It’s like we’ve been trained to respect the hard ass, and judge the teacher that students actually enjoy. But I’ve seen the “cool teacher” come in all ages, shape, colors, and sizes.
Their styles look more grandpa than GQ, their cultural references are usually 10 years too late, and they might be the farthest thing from smooth.
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This kind of rigor goes into a lot of my decisionmaking.