An arrest warrant acquired by the Fort Worth Star-Telegram says that the pair exchanged nude photos and had sex multiple times over the summer break.It is measured by more than test scores, grades, and degrees; it's also measured in relationships, life lessons, and personal growth.Whether it’s where I’m eating, where I’m traveling or, God forbid, something I’m buying, like a lot of people in my generation—those in their 20s and 30s—I feel compelled to do a ton of research to make sure I’m getting every option and then making the best choice.From physical and sexual abuse to verbal and emotional, digital, and financial abuse, dating violence encompasses a wide range of unhealthy and abusive actions used to exert power and control over another person.Our students should like to be around us most of the time.The advice I gave the sweater vest kid is really the same advice I would give to any new teacher trying to find their way in this job: We should ask a lot of questions and listen a lot.
“I need some advice on how to get girls to like me. ” Obviously, this student needed more help than I thought.I noticed this parallel last year, when one of my favorite students in the world came to me when my room was empty. “Boll, I need to ask you a question.” “What’s up, man?Shoot.” He stuttered in a way that that was slightly more uncomfortable than usual for him, so I knew he wasn’t asking me about an essay or an assignment.People start to fidget and offer an uncomfortable courtesy laugh.But teachers, bear with me, and try not to spill your Folgers.Not only did he not know how to talk to a girl he liked, but he also thought this awkward 34-year-old white guy who tries to teach English in his neighborhood high school was a good place to start. I told him that every person I ever met likes to talk about themselves.I was never very smooth with the ladies, but I was honored by his bad judgement. But he was more the kind of cool that was going to crush his 30s. Sweater vests, ties with jeans, and conversations about climate change are the kind of thing that coffee dates and wine parties are made of, but they might leave him hanging in high school. So if you are talking to a girl you like, try to ask a lot of questions and let her talk a lot.It comes with a certain dress code, style, and dialect that students find relevant.People say things like “I don’t need my students to like me” in the teachers’ lounge and that seems to earn them a badge of honor.Generally—and this is not only true about romance—people are drawn to people who are more interested in others than themselves.In this vein, I think teachers need to be better daters.