There are several reasons I’m for short first emails.With online dating, the first message can make or break your chances of a successful first date.It is also worth noting that most often discuss this from the point of view of a man contacting a woman, since that was my experience, but my hope is that the thoughts here are helpful to anyone.This discussion is primarily for sites such as where you write the online dating first message yourself (see more on how works if you’re not familiar with what I’m referring to).I would write overly long and, in my head, witty emails that very rarely received responses. My rule here is very simple: keep your first email very short.Once, I wrote no less than two pages based on a girl’s heading to her profile. I thought I was making conversation but all I was making was a girl scared. Give anything longer than three sentences a good, hard look before sending.If you read my online dating guide you’ll know that my first 6 months or so I had very little success.However, during this “bad” phase of my dating life e Harmony was the service where I was having some success (even if limited).
So better to listen to your gut and break any “rules” (such as keeping the email short) when you think it would work to your favor.There’s no such thing as a perfect email subject line.No one can give you a formula that will work every time.): Response 3: For all these examples, I’ve intentionally chosen profiles that were very short to keep the examples to a reasonable size.Most profiles should have much more information for you to work with but you can apply the exact same ideas: Also, regardless what any book or person tells you (including this guy), you need to be making decisions for yourself.[Read more: Read more first email examples from my working with a reader of this site] I hope my advice here is helpful for you however I also realize success is also often easier said than done.My advice in this article is based mostly on sites like where we find ourselves having to initiate contact all on our own.If you continue to struggle writing your first emails or struggle with getting responses with a service like this, trying a service like e Harmony might be helpful. e Harmony operates in a different way where they control much of the early communication for you.I have discussed the features of this service a lot on my site so I don’t want to cover all of that again here but I will point out that: , while I met my wife using I felt that it was e Harmony that really helped me become more comfortable with online dating.As I’ve said, in online dating a first message can have a huge affect, but what helps the most?Here’s my short 4-point list of easy to follow ideas: This is an example of how sometimes profiles are too short and give you no clues to who the person is.