A recent interview between Aziz Ansari and Conan O’Brien highlights why singles are basically assholes now when it comes to dating.Instead of rejecting people like adults, we instead blow people off through text message, don’t reply at all and even attempt breaking up with people via text. Oh good times, when we were 20 something and bright eyed and hopeful. My eyes just look tired and wrinkled…and all the hope is gone. Because slowly I’m learning (or maybe not learning given the fact that I’m still single) that there are definitely different dating rules when you’re 42 then when you’re 22. (Again, refer to #2…baggage and issues with men are NOT ATTRACTIVE)! Who cares if you have a job, 2 teenage kids, 3 dogs, 2 birds and some friends you actually like to spend time with every now and then…always be available to meet him whenever he is available…because apparently you are not busy at all but he is very busy, so dating must be done on his schedule. Not only was it my first drink but it was my first of about 20 that night…of which I believe I ended up face down in the grass somewhere near the end of the evening. I mean, there really should be a rule book or something that we can follow. (Apparently being a 42 year old single mother with a lot of baggage and issues with men is ) Instead, pretend that you are happy and your life is perfect and that you are madly in love with the man you are dating. Do not (and I repeat, DO NOT) on your first date tell how funny you think it is that all of your exes are in jail…or about to be in jail. I met my ex-husband when I was 19, almost 20 I believe. I figured if there wasn’t a Dating In Your 40’s Rule Book for me to learn from, I would just create my own (don’t create dating rule books should probably be one of the rules, but oh well). Apparently, chivalry went out the door in the 80’s. A “2 drink minimum” only applies to nights out at the Improv…do not apply this rule to your first date. Remember to repeatedly tell him that “He is the smartest, funniest, cutest, sexiest man you have ever dated and how did you get so lucky to be the girl who gets to spend time with him”.
Modern day dating needs modern day rules so it’s time for an update folks. 6) Waiting for him to make the first move or ask you out. I’ve met a lot of women who think asking a man for his number or out on a date seems pathetic and desperate. Real men like women who take initiative and men like it when a woman asks them out for a change.After all, it is scary business being a single dude in Vancouver since Vancouver women have been perceived as snotty and unapproachable.) especially as far as women in Vancouver are concerned.A viewer of the show I co-host wrote in about a first date he had gone on with a woman in which she ordered 8 glasses of wine at each.While certain traditions with regard to courting will never go out of style, many of the rules of dating have changed dramatically, much like our evolvement from apparent prostitution.When the game changes, the rulebook needs to be updated too!In August 2010, Michael Dunn of the University of Wales Institute, Cardiff completed and released the results of a study on age disparity in dating.Dunn concluded that "Not once across all ages and countries ...By the jazz era in the 1920’s, dating became an expectation among society and by the 1930’s it was assumed that any popular young person would have lots of dates however, pre-marital sex was still frowned upon.As time progressed, technology advanced and humans evolved, so did dating.