A 2003 survey by AARP found that 34 percent of women over 40 were dating younger men.According to Coles and his colleague Marco Francesconi, the trend can be attributed to more women getting high-earning jobs.They may still have confidence in their appearance, but it mostly only goes so far as to expect attention from men that are around their age or older.They WILL question your advancements if you’re significantly younger than them.Here’s my top 3 tips for dating older women: Yes, yes age is a “state of mind” but when it comes to women “Older” really is subjective. Given the wide viewership of our articles, let me break down how the differences of women change as they age: This is really only an “older” woman if you are in your late teens to early 20s.Understand that women in this age range are starting to wise up to men and they’re likely seriously looking for future husbands. As Benjamin Franklin famously put it, “All cats are grey in the dark.” and there’s a lot of benefits age can bring to women.However, it’s not just the women in these relationships who face social disapproval.A 2006 study found that both partners faced criticism from friends and family, and some even lied about their age difference to avoid judgment. Because being attracted to an older woman violates social norms.
Most men don’t realize that as women age their tastes for what they want in a man change as well.It doesn’t mean they won’t love the attention, but when it escalates from simple compliments to communicating your intent, or even something physical, they will likely put on the brakes with an incredulous “Oh please. Actions can speak louder than words in some cases but make sure it’s clear that this isn’t just you giving them charity compliments: You’re actually interested in them.I’m much older than you”So how do you convince them? See below for an example script: You: No, and I’ll be the judge of that.Depending on their history they may have recently gotten out of failed marriage or long term relationships and have no interest in jumping into another.If you position your attraction to her as something more than just a mutual physical connection too soon, you may scare them off.To be sure, not all cultures stigmatize older woman-younger man relationships.In the Lepcha tribe, which resides in the Asian highlands, such relationships are considered normal.A female breadwinner subverts the stereotype that men are supposed to support women. A double standard around aging also plays a role, the sociologists Hernan Vera, Donna H. Older women are not usually viewed as sexual beings, but instead as sexless, maternal figures.Older woman-younger man relationships show that older women aren’t that different from older men: They both desire young, attractive partners.“On average, a woman is about 45% more likely to be in a toyboy relationship if, relative to her partner, she is more educated and in a better occupation class,” they write. According to Coles and Francesconi’s model, people choose partners based on fitness (sexual attractiveness and other factors) and “success in the labor market” (having a good job).Because most women have historically had fewer job opportunities, they have chosen partners based on their wealth.