The point isn’t to condemn or idolize any one marital status as more protected than the other.The point is to recognize the common human element that makes possible the subversion of the marriage covenant if one (or both) persons are married.The answer is, of course, different for each kind of relationship.
What may be a beautiful and holy male-female friendship in one instance may not be translatable to every male and female, and certainly cannot be absolutized to every male and female. But when the risks have been weighed and the rewarding structures have been established, we can, with a clear conscience, come before God and ask him to bless our friendships with the opposite sex. And like all beautiful things, it requires patient investment, open-handed humility, ruthless selflessness and self-awareness, and self-control.Let’s have answer, and let interactions that veer away from that agreed upon purpose remain off-limits.It’s easy for the church to split itself into men’s ministries, women’s ministries, and couples’ ministries.It’s common for single people to be demonized as the “temptresses” or the “bait,” while the married folk are just the victims of preying mistresses (or misters).Yet, it seems that temptation often comes the other way, from the married person to the single: for example, Joseph and Potiphar’s wife (Genesis –18), or at least ambiguous, in the case of the church member and his father’s wife (1 Corinthians 5:1).Every relationship — all intimacy — flourishes with the right kind of boundaries.And the sort of relationship dictates what boundaries it needs to flourish. To start, multiple What do these friendships look like? Does God prohibit them, or are they vital to the body of Christ?” we must realize that each new possibility of a friendship between a woman and a man may require a “no” or “yes” in various circumstances, or at various stages of life. But even between single people, the dangers are significant. This is called “the friend zone,” and it’s very easy for tectonic plates of desire to create exciting and heated friendship when that heat is, in fact, caused by motivations moving in opposite directions.Since any godly male-female friendship will be friendship between two disciples of Christ, the first step in building that friendship is to “count the cost, whether [you have] enough to complete it” (Luke ). Male-female friendship always brings the possibility for awkwardness, for conflict, for heartache. Whether we’re the desiring or the desired, let’s be honest with ourselves: do we both want the same thing from this friendship?If we don’t ask ourselves this question, someone will eventually pay the serious consequences. with perverted heart devises evil, continually sowing discord; therefore calamity will come upon him suddenly; in a moment he will be broken beyond healing” (Proverbs , 14–15). The spark of sexual immorality may be the difference of an inch, a glance.