Dating after divorce can be fun when you approach it with an open and conscious mind.
What’s this earth shattering, paradigm shifting information I need to lay upon you? If you are a single male, you believe that you are number one.
Do you feel sorry for him and want to “fix” his life? He tells you to wear his favorite color or certain types of clothing when going out on a date (or he buys you clothes to wear.) He tells you how and when to do everything. A full Spin class is a bummer but not a life changer; certainly not the same level of upset as discovering your child’s racked up a cellphone bill of over 8 in one month. Being a parent, you’re used to the quick change of plans. Someone vomits in their backpack on the way to school and suddenly you are working from home that day. Yes, we’ve been married and our marriages failed but at least we had the courage to say I Do. Women so young and naive that they can’t discern their emotional disabilities. Put the coconut water on the top shelf by mistake and thought he was going to collapse in his granite perfection of a kitchen in a full on seizure. Being married before means you are brave enough to make a commitment. Don’t believe their professions that they just haven’t found “someone”. Leave these men to embarrass themselves and date cocktail waitresses who are 22. He drives an expensive, fast fancy car, wears a rolex and expensive jewelry, clothing and other accessories. He appears nice enough, but conveniently avoids answering personal questions about himself. Another scenario could be that he crashes with various friends or lives with a couple of women.He lavishes you at the finest of restaurants and is always bragging about how much money he has. He expects you to drive and never offers to pay for gas. He may say things like, “I am a jack of all trades,” “I make money in a variety of ways” or “It’s complicated.” Questions to ask yourself: What is he hiding? Questions to ask yourself: What are the circumstances? Does he have a solid plan to venture out on his own? Everything that comes out of his mouth has a negative aura about it. To be a parent means to realize that what want now means nothing at all. If you’ve never had kids, you don’t understand that. Once you’ve had the pleasure of cleaning the diaper of a small screaming human, or paying 0 to see Dora the Explorer Live on Stage, you realize that you are now way on down the list of importance. There is no need to be concerned if only one or two people have something bad to say…but if everyone is saying it… Just about any situation can be viewed as a dating red flag based on your previous experiences with your ex-husband.Questions to ask yourself: What are they seeing – and what should I look out for? Consider everything and make a list of what you will and will not tolerate in a relationship along with red flags that could point to him being like your ex. If you’ve never had kids, you still think the world revolves around you. Being a parent teaches you that lots of crappy little stuff happens but as long as everyone gets home in one piece, it’s a good day. Maybe we failed miserably but we took the walk down the aisle, threw the wedding bouquet and put ourselves in debt to have a kick ass party.