It’s Like My Relationship If you feel you might be in an unhealthy relationship, remember there is no reason to feel any shame. We hear from smart and successful people all the time. You might think that if you just change the way you are that you can fix the relationship — but sometimes no matter what you do, the other person won’t change. You have the right to be in a safe and healthy relationship and the right to end an unhealthy one.
It may not be easy to break up with a controlling partner, so contact us if you want to talk about it.
So, if you find yourself not able to 'be yourself' with the person you are dating, take a moment and ask yourself why you are investing the time in the relationship; it sounds decidedly one-sided. If your date cannot accept you for who you are, further dating can be more hurtful than helpful because, clearly, you two are not good for each other and probably not meant to be together. Those who abuse need to have consequences for their actions or they will continue to abuse. 4) Seek professional help if the abuse has hurt your belief in yourself. Warren, in his book titled "Finding the Love of Your Life," suggests that that couples should work through and clarify their relationships with their parents before marriage.
When you date someone, there are bound to be a few little things that you'd like to change. According to the latest research findings, 1 in 5 teenagers are being physically or sexually abused by their partners. A therapist can help you understand the tactics the abuser used to make you believe that the abuse was normal. He suggests that, "When we marry, it will be ideal if in relation to our parents (1) we are essentially free from them--emotionally independent individuals--so we do not have to make decisions and live our lives to please them; (2) we are clear about what is particularly true of our relationship with our mother and father, and what is true in relation to our spouse; and (3) we have established a relationship with our parents in which they will not intrude in our marriage, will not dictate to us in any authoritative ways, and yet we stil maintain a closeness and connectedness to them." Some people wear their heart on their sleeve; others rarely give you a peek.
One of the most common red flags in a dating relationship is thinking you have to play a role or act like something or someone you are not.
So, if you are in a current relationship, ask yourself, "Can I be myself in this relationship or do I have to mask some of my feelings?
There’s no excuse for anyone to use anger or emotional abuse to get what they want, and it’s never your fault if they do.
Do not expect this person to change if you marry him/her.
Talk with a trusted friend, a family member or a professional who can give you good, sound advice on how to best deal with the abuse.
" If the answer is yes, this relationship is not for you.
If you are starting a relationship, be yourself -- without apology -- from the start.