Being guarded and being independent are two different things. But keep a part of you that is completely yours and in due time that independence will foster maturity in you individually and your relationship. I don’t label guys as “christian” or “Non-Christian.” Rarely will you hear me say, “Is he a Christian? Then ask yourself, is the man I am dating going to help me get there?
” because labeling someone’s religious affiliation is not what gives me the okay to date someone. Following Christ is one of the most important decisions of your life and it’s so important to choose a spouse who will challenge you and support you in that relationship.
I am not an expert but I can always promise that I am going to be real with you about what I feel I have learned over the past couple years. Before we even make it to the restaurant Jordan says to me, “I wanted to ask you on a date because I could see you as my wife.” To be honest, I didn’t freak out or anything.
In fact, I respected his courage and appreciated him telling me his intentions but I was a senior in college nearing graduation and had no intentions of marrying this rando.
I didn’t plan my life around him but around what I knew God had for me at that moment in my life.
Codependency is real and there are so many ways we can protect ourselves from this.
Is this man able to lead me in a relationship where we serve God above ourselves every day? It’s going to mess you up, confuse your heart, and potentially smother your soul. If you are hoping to be the “one” who changes a boy’s heart and encourages him to chase after God.
I won’t sit here and tell you that’s impossible (because God can do anything) but I want you to think about what God wants for you in a relationship right now.
It can be really easy to be motivated to go to church or pray because of a boy. The Christian Blog Post is finally here…When you’re dating with the intention of marriage, sometimes you have to put the idea of your ‘perfect man’ aside and ask yourself what’s God’s ‘perfect man’ for me?I was convinced I had a certain ‘type’ but since the day I fell in love with Jordan, there’s no doubt in my mind that he is the one.Photo Credit: Jessica Whitaker There is a lot of hoopla out there on Christian dating advice.Some of it is biblical, some of it is cultural, and other bits of it I don’t know where it actually came from.But that also may mean that you aren’t ready to be in a relationship.I believe that in dating where feelings get hurt and character is jeopardized is when intentions are left unclear.I prayed and attended church with my girlfriends because I knew these ladies would be there at the end of the day.As Jordan and I grew more intimate in our relationship and shared our intentions of marrying each other one day, things did change It’s important for each of us to always seek God’s will for our lives. Until I am engaged, I won’t make my plans the same as Jordan’s.He was in it for the long haul and I didn’t have to worry about some dude who just wanted to have a good time or didn’t take me seriously.If your intentions are nothing serious at the time then that’s okay!