” By even asking that question, you prove that you think of bosses as giant bags of money, rather than as individual human beings who are allowed to make their own choices.No one “owes” you money just because you say you “work hard”, and by complaining about this you’re proving you’re not a hard worker at all.
I didn’t think I deserved to have the prettiest girl in school prostrate herself at my feet. And, like my patient Dan, I just wanted to know – how is this fair?But for me it looked more like the story of a psychiatrist from an upper-middle-class background suddenly realizing how dysfunctional and screwed-up a lot of his patients are and having his mind recoil in horror from the fact – which is something I can sympathize with.Henry was the worst of a bad bunch, but nowhere near unique.One I just grew tired of.” “You’ve beaten up all five of your wives? Last time I talked about these experiences, one of my commenters linked me to what was later described as the only Theodore Dalrymple piece anyone ever links to.Most of the commenters saw a conservative guy trying to push an ideological point, and I guess that’s part of it.This topic is personally enraging to me and I don’t promise I can treat it fairly.] I recently had a patient, a black guy from the worst part of Detroit, let’s call him Dan, who was telling me of his woes.He came from a really crappy family with a lot of problems, but he was trying really hard to make good.And he was getting a little philosophical about it, and he asked – I’m paraphrasing here – why haven’t things worked out for me?I’m hard-working, I’ve never missed a day of work until now, I’ve always given a hundred and ten percent.And meanwhile, I see all these rich white guys (“no offense, doctor,” he added, clearly overestimating the salary of a medical resident) who kind of coast through school, coast into college, end up with 9 – 4 desk jobs working for a friend of their father’s with excellent salaries and benefits, and if they need to miss a couple of days of work, whether it’s for a hospitalization or just to go on a cruise, nobody questions it one way or the other.I’m a harder worker than they are, he said – and I believed him – so how is that fair?