A sort of ‘emotional sex’ that can be just as harmful and heartbreaking, when it moves too deep, too fast.” So how can you tell when emotional intimacy is pushing the limits? “Slow and Steady” are the words that should come to mind. Wait until you know you can trust someone with those things that matter to you.Don’t share your most intimate personal details or your darkest secrets in the early stages of dating.Debra Fileta, professional counselor and author of True Love Dates, says this: “More powerful than a kiss, more seductive than an embrace, there is something that happens when two people connect emotionally.Something that has the capacity to outweigh even the physical. Here are some guidelines to help you set reasonable, healthy, God-honoring emotional boundaries in dating that will help protect both you and your special someone.And what I also know now is that it was a smart move.As humans we all have the desire to know and be known by others.But don’t let your dating relationship isolate you and keep you from enjoying time with other people.Keep interacting and participating in your existing relationships with family and friends on a regular basis.
Not long ago, I pulled out the shoebox and reread each letter, experiencing all over again the excitement of a new relationship, the uncertainty of reciprocated feelings and the hesitancy to let my heart run away with me.And also remember that if you do indeed guard your heart well, if you go slow and steady and you commit your way to the Lord, you’ll create a wise pathway forward by the decisions you make.You’ll be blessed with a qualitatively better life and relationship.And when we do this well, the reward is that our lives will resemble springs of living water!The problem is that when a relationship prematurely moves too deep, too soon, it leaves us vulnerable to heartbreak and emotional damage.Revisit them now and then to assess whether you are keeping your commitment.Dating is a great opportunity to learn more about yourself, and to know and be known by others. Be aware that emotional intimacy can carry you much deeper into your relationship than you ever intended to go, resulting in the double cost of a broken heart and a broken spirit.Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in establishing reasonable, healthy, God-honoring emotional boundaries that will help protect both you and your special someone.Then actually put them in writing and have a friend hold you accountable to them.Otherwise, you miss out on an important facet of the other person and discovering how he or she responds to the Lord.Wait to talk about a future together until you’ve taken the time to build a foundation of commitment and trust.