Even if his tastes are different, you'll come off as passionate, which is a major turn-on.Next: Three more hidden turnoffs that are keeping him away!The researchers suggest the boring but supposedly effective, “Genuine, attractive, outgoing, professional female, good sense of humor, into keeping fit, socializing, music and travel, seeks like-minded, good-natured guy to share quality times.”In general, the research shows online daters steer gender stereotypical. Women like bravery, courage and risk-taking more than kindness and altruism. The six-page study goes on to offer a practical how-to for online daters including nuggets like: don’t just wink or send a generic message; keep the first missive short and sweet; be enthusiastic; and don’t keep an online paramour waiting. But consider, singles, while strict guidelines are sure to be a comfort for some in the online dating pool, love is not an exact science—and even stone-cold science needs its skeptics.You went online because there's a huge pool of guys to date, and hooking one is supposed to be easy. According to Internet dating experts, many women are guilty of making these five mistakes online.With a list of eerily specific guidelines—covering everything from the perfect screen name to the wording of that first message—science has the looking for love covered.And for those who judge breakthroughs in online dating insignificant in the annals of scientific discovery, even Carl Sagan knows that “For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love.”The Perfect Handle Men are simple creatures, the science suggests, so obvious screen names are the most effective.
Plus, guys have learned to dismiss those generic descriptions since they've been on dates with women who describe themselves the same way but are total duds in person. So instead of writing that you're adventurous, make him really believe it by including a story about that time you took a spontaneous trip to the beach with girlfriends and swam with dolphins.
Even ones who meet your criteria will hold back because they'll be wondering what you're going to hate about them.
The snag-him secret: Resist the temptation to write about the kind of guy you don't want.
Mistake #3: You Go Negative You might be tempted to write "Don't message me if you were born before 1970 or live with your parents" in an effort to weed out unsavory characters.
But that can backfire because it makes guys think you have issues or are high-maintenance.