You love a person, not their gender segregation, and this love will more than likely develop into a sexual love.It's like saying you don't like all chocolate because you're not keen on Turkish delight, you know? This is called asexuality, but some asexual people are still interested in developing romantic relationships with other.Asexuality is completely normal and healthy variant of human sexuality.
It's lot like what you descibed, wanting a relationship but not necessarily for the sex or because of physical attraction. there are different types of attraction, to list a few: sexual attraction, romantic attraction, aesthetic attraction and sensual attraction.I just want you to know you don't have to figure this out on your own. A common misconception is that there are things you can't feel when it comes to your sexual orientation or your relationships with others.I know this might not be something you want to discuss with your friends or family, but if you join this site you can get free, anonymous support from trained listeners and a huge support community. Asexuality, for example, does not mean an absence of romantic interest in others, just the absence of a sexual one. some people don't experience sexual attraction and a label for that is Asexual.Yes, there are differenttypes of attraction besides sexual attraction.It is very possible you might be experiencing one of those other attractions towards that gender.It is perfectly normal and not at all something to frown upon. Sexual attraction, in which you feel you want to partake in sexual activities with a particular person, is just one type, and not everyone experiences it.The best option is to discuss the limits and interests of both involved parties to be sure that everyone is on the same page for their wants and desires in a relationship as emotionally intimate as anything involving the word or concept of "love." Just because it doesn't involve sex or sexual desire does not mean it isn't love, desire, or intimate. There's also a romantic version of it, a platonic version (like a friend crush), an aesthetic version (where you really admire someone's appearance), and more.There's nothing wrong, invalid, or broken about you or how you feel. You can experience romantic attraction but not sexual attraction, or the other way around, or both or neither.You can also experience romantic attraction to a different group of people than you experience sexual attraction. Sexual orientation is different than romantic orientation.Whether it's true or not, it is based on personal preferences. Yes there is many different kinds of emotions when you are attracted to someone, sexual, emotional and romantic and you can feel like you are attracted to that gender emotionally but wouldn't be comfortable having sex with them. That is called romantic attraction, and is something different from sexual orientation altogether. In this case you may be asexual and a separate romantic orientation.For example, I identify as an asexual panromantic, which means I don't really want to have sex no matter what, but I'm able to form a romantic relationship with people regardless of gender. I recommend googling some romantic orientations to see if any apply to you. Maybe you just like that persons energy or their personality draws you to them.