As my husband frequently reminds me, it’s not that you marriage.
It’s a commitment you make every day and sex is one way in which you recommit yourself to your spouse.
To prepare for the talk, I attended at Thursday 10 p.m.
Mass where about 75 committed Catholic undergrads served as a focus group: After I explained why I thought it was important for issues of sex and dating to be address within the Church, I asked students to put their anonymous questions on index cards.
Another argument would say, if you really love someone you should prove it to them there and then. And it can be confused for desire or a heat-of-the-moment crush.
Too often, a girl is convinced to have sex as the only way to prove her love.
So as last night rolled around I had dozens of excellent questions and possible topics to discuss.
In a nearly-packed room in the basement of the Newman Center (and with Daily Iowan reporters there taking notes and snapping my picture) we had 90 minutes of questions, answers and discussion.
He wanted to have sex, too, but he believes a couple should wait until marriage.
Second, it shields you from someone who just wants a one-night stand.
If they don’t want to have coffee with you in 12 hours but they wanted to have sex with you right then, you made the right choice.
You can drink and have fun, certainly, but remain in control. Do you want to be popular with this person just for , or also when he or she is sober and making good decisions tomorrow and the next day?
And don’t be above being a bit of a tease: You can hang out with a guy or girl at the bar as if you might go home with them, and then say—give me your number I’ll call you tomorrow.