But if your caregiver was not so attuned to your needs, was intrusive or inattentive, you might develop what is called an insecure attachment.
If something you wanted emotionally or physically (like comfort) went unfulfilled, you might end up anxious about relationships as an adult.
If you do not want to take any risks, you should not sext. But at the end of the day, a lot of people are going to sext anyway.
And for some, such as couples in long-distance relationships, sexting can keep communication and sexual desire strong.
Some research suggests that people often engage in sexting after being coerced by romantic partners or to avoid an argument with their romantic partner.
So perhaps anxiety and concern about what your romantic partner thinks about you promote behaviors like sexting.
There are times when the rewards of sexting may outweigh the risks—it's up to you to decide.
It appears that there is less stigma and greater comfort with sexting, provided that one perceives that his or her partner wants to sext and if there is a degree of relationship commitment.It suggests that the way you related to your caregiver as an infant (and vice versa) shapes how you come to view relationships later in life.If your caregiver was attuned to your needs and responsive, you will develop a secure attachment.That means you are comfortable with close relationships because your experience paid off – Mom or Dad was there when you were distressed or hungry or cold.From that experience, you learned that relationships are safe and reciprocal, and your attachment anxiety is low.We also expected to find that sexting would occur in relationships without a lot of commitment, meaning that we thought that sexting would be part of the wooing.But it turns out that people who are comfortable with close relationships (a secure attachment style) and also worry about what their partner might think of them are more likely to engage in sexting, but only if there some level of commitment in the relationship. What this tells us is that people may be concerned with pleasing their partner’s desire – or perceived desire – to engage in sexting and that it is the comfort with intimacy in relationships that may allow sexting to occur.We found that people in romantic relationships – whether of long or short duration – were more likely to have sexted than those who did not have romantic partners.There were no gender differences for engaging in sexting, except that males were more likely than females to have sent a text propositioning sexual activity.Rob Weisskirch does not work for, consult, own shares in or receive funding from any company or organisation that would benefit from this article, and has disclosed no relevant affiliations beyond their academic appointment.The Conversation UK receives funding from Hefce, Hefcw, SAGE, SFC, RCUK, The Nuffield Foundation, The Ogden Trust, The Royal Society, The Wellcome Trust, Esmée Fairbairn Foundation and The Alliance for Useful Evidence, as well as sixty five university members. Why do they send racy or naked photos or videos and sexually loaded texts?